Cyber Sex – Is It Cheating?
I read an article in a newspaper the other day about the publics perception of ‘Cyber Sex’ – that is having ‘sex’ with someone over the internet.
If you haven’t had ‘cyber sex’ you’re probably already scratching your head a bit here about WHAT it actually is. Basically, it’ll either be pulling your pud on a webcamera in a one way/mutual masturbation session. Or maybe it’s purely text-based, where you’re both sat there typing with one sweaty hand about what colour pants you have on and and feeding ponies and stuff.
There is the technology to attach various rubbery articles to your genitals that will actually simulate the sexual movements of your cyber lover – but I’m sure it’s crap, expensive, and nobody actually uses it.
Many apparently ‘do’ each other bent over the Cyber Table if they’re in a long distance relationship, or their partner is away for more than 45 minutes. It’s a way to release the sexual tension between you and express your love and lust even when you’re apart. Or a convenient way of being a dirty little scutter to discourage your lonesome partner from banging the milk man or a passing prostitute.
So if you’re already in a relationship with a real living person, is having Cyber Sex with someone else cheating?
The figures show that 18% of people have had Cyber Sex. 51% of people say that it IS infidelity. 26% didn’t know/care. The rest I suspect just went a bit mongy, started dribbling, and the person asking the questions had to walk away.
I’d agree and say that it IS cheating on your partner. You’re having some form of a sexual relationship with somebody else, and most partners will be pretty offended to find out you’ve done that.
You’re not actually touching that person, are you? Sure, in some cases there could be some pesky feeelings building, but what if the cyber sex is just with some random chatroom person?
Putting it into perspective a little more – isn’t it just the same as watching porn?
Maybe the Cyber Sex person will tailor their rub-tugging antics a little to your requests, but then you can also get interactive porn that does pretty much the same thing. And porn isn’t cheating, right?
So now I’m not actually sure. I am sure that if my fiancee was having Cyber Sex I’d be pretty damned gutted, and I wouldn’t do it myself – but that’s just my choice.
What are your views on it?