Erotic Writing – A Warning And A Whinge!
I first started blogging back in the MySpace days of glory under this name because it wasn’t the name anybody knew. This was partly to see if some of my writing and rants could make the charts even without my regular readers… but mainly so I could write the stuff that I couldn’t get away with anywhere else. Like relationship problems and some of my more, ahem, controversial writing.
With the move to WordPress and the advent of Facebook, that kind-of knocked it all on the head. If you’re on my Facebook, then the chances are you’ll have at least seen my blogs. This is A Bad Thing, when you consider Facebook people are Real people I might have to see on a daily basis.
That said, since MySpace went shit and died like a palsied ferret after falling down a well, I have been reposting some of my old blogs on WordPress. Both because I’ve had requests, and because I think they need to go on here, they’re going to be here eventually.
So, yeah… If you know me personally and are reading this, I’m afraid that I WILL be reposting the old ‘Sex Blog Thursday’ pieces on here when I fu- sorry, PLUCK the courage up. If you don’t like it – don’t read it.
And another thing about all this ‘erotic’ writing!
Correct me if I’m wrong, but ‘erotic’ does not mean ‘kinky, perverted shit’! Or does it???
It seems to me that the majority of ‘erotic’ pieces have to involve whips and chains and biting and stuff! what’s it all about?
To me, proper erotica is more about the subtler descriptions of sex. Basically a toned-down version of the stories you get in porn mags – better written, and conveying some kind of feelings between the subjects.
OK, so that could include bondage and all that, but it’s not ‘normal’ sex, is it?
I’ve never been tied up or tied anyone up for sex.
There’s been no spanking during my sex play (err, apart from a few times taking the piss).
No riding crops and nipple clamps have ever been produced by my lovers – nor has blood been drawn. Not that I’ve ever been pleased about, anyway!
I haven’t been called ‘Daddy’, or dripped hot wax over anyone’s nether regions!
I’m British, don’tcherknow!!!
Yet almost all ‘erotic’ stuff on MySpaz or anywhere seems to involve some serious kinky shit.
Now sex outside and all that could be seen as ‘kinky’ by some. What I class as ‘kinky’ is anything that you would be reserved about asking a new partner to do/be a part of before you’ve subtly sounded them out. Let’s face it – if you whip out a pony-tail buttplug, your new partner could well run screaming/laughing from the bedroom.
Maybe it’s because a lot of erotica is fantasy, and this kind of kinky shit is actually every womans fantasy, deep down? Most writers in this field are women, anyway.
Or is it just that the less kinky women never bother to write erotica?
Is the ‘normal’ erotica a bit, well, boring?
What’s kinky to you – and has anyone ever tried to take something too far and it’s made you laugh/scream/run away?
Am I just all innocent and inexperienced?